Sometimes telling the world who you really are can be quite complicated and scary. The complexity can come from not really knowing your whole self; therefore, how can you share it with others. Everyone has to reveal certain parts of themselves when it’s right for them. Sometimes though, society makes it so that we never feel comfortable nor safe “coming out”. We all have our secrets, and I will agree some should probably never be told, but others could to help someone else. I think it takes one person to be strong for others to follow. Most people just need to know it is okay.
Deep down to the core people do want to be who they are and tell their story. It’s therapeutic and it helps us form bonds with one another. I don’t think people at a default want to lie about who they are and what they do. But to be so transparent means you have to also be quite courageous. Being transparent to others can be a dangerous thing. People get murdered, fired, ridiculed and disowned for coming out about certain things. At the end of the day we are all human but most of us don’t think about that. We think about what we see and how we feel things and people should be. We should be focused on how things should be in our lives and how we should be internally.
Take Don Lemon for example, he wanted to come out when he was at the age of 30, which he did to his family and close friends; however, he could not to the general public in fear of destroying his career path as an anchor for CNN. Coincidentally, Queen Latifah portrayed a similar storyline through the new show Single Ladies. But this is just one example of what many of us limit ourselves to others. It takes so much bravery and confidence to be transparent.
Sometimes life has a way of making us transparent. It’s the whole theory of things come to light. I have had experiences like this in my life that forced me to share a piece of me. Parts of me I did not want certain people to know for different reasons. I had to come to terms with knowing at some point in my life everything about me will be revealed to someone. I personally would rather willingly share myself with others than have something in my life happen that forces me to. The reason this site I have created exists is because I started realizing this in 2004. Blogging was my outlet to be transparent. When I realized my transparency helped others it became my driving force. However, there are still parts of me that I have not revealed of myself, everything will be in due time. Everything being significant things in my life that I feel would help another person. I understand that there is an art to doing this. There is also a time factor. There has to be an internal reason for this. There are people yes, you will consider before doing this. I deal with that same struggle every day. But that’s why there is an art to being transparent. We must understand that once we find that art that works for us, that there is so much beauty, gifts, and rewards that come with this.
Being transparent does not have to be revealing yourself to the world necessarily but simply not being scared to be who you really feel you truly are; with no hesitation even when people see it. Exuding that kind of confidence is a gift for others that are lacking. It makes you untouchable. Sharing and teaching your experiences is a gift not a curse. It is the ultimate kind of love we give to others that cannot be conquered.
Please support The Trevor Project that helps people be comfortable in who they are in their own skin. Too many people are taking their lives because society makes them feel wrong and alienated for who they are. www.thetrevorproject.org
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Unfortunate for those who can`t show their true selves with out suffering some form of persecution. The rest of us should be thankful we can. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ty812aSdLo
It's a shame that society, media and certain individuals put people thru "persecution". That's a perfect word to use John!
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There's an excellent (and short) book that helps with the concept of being one's self and not "putting on the mask" for everyone else in society titled "The Knight in Rusty Armor". It's one of my favorite books as the story is wonderfully told (in a fairy tale format) and pertains to any and everyone, regardless of orientation, personality or issue. I highly recommend it to anyone who has trouble being happy in their own skin.
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Very good. I can understand why you wrote this article and why you had to concentrate on it. There are many people that hide who they really are. Like you, I try to reveal myself in pieces to people. There are some that know me but not all of me. Everyone has secrets and to drop your guard to everyone is something that's scary to do. What's great is during the conversations we've had, I can tell that this is your passion and I hope others can see that will will be inspired by it. Being comfortable in our own skin takes time and people have to understand that. Keep the thoughts flowing and don't let anyone stop you.
Awww thank you Kenneth! This comment means a lot to me. I won't give up. I think even still after writing this article it is good to have some things sacred to just you. Some things though could be very helpful to be shared. I think it's how we bond… it's how we survive and it's part of what we were put on earth for. We de-humanize each other when we judge and stint people from being who they are and haring who they are.
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Thank you so much for taking the time to read this! I am glad you enjoyed it. It's one of my more personal articles!
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