Sometimes telling the world who you really are can be quite complicated and scary. The complexity can come from not really knowing your whole self; therefore, how can you share it with others. Everyone has to reveal certain parts of themselves when it’s right for them. Sometimes though, society makes it so that we never feel comfortable nor safe “coming out”. We all have our secrets, and I will agree some should probably never be told, but others could to help someone else. I think it takes one person to be strong for others to follow. Most people just need to know it is okay.
Deep down to the core people do want to be who they are and tell their story. It’s therapeutic and it helps us form bonds with one another. I don’t think people at a default want to lie about who they are and what they do. But to be so transparent means you have to also be quite courageous. Being transparent to others can be a dangerous thing. People get murdered, fired, ridiculed and disowned for coming out about certain things. At the end of the day we are all human but most of us don’t think about that. We think about what we see and how we feel things and people should be. We should be focused on how things should be in our lives and how we should be internally.
Take Don Lemon for example, he wanted to come out when he was at the age of 30, which he did to his family and close friends; however, he could not to the general public in fear of destroying his career path as an anchor for CNN. Coincidentally, Queen Latifah portrayed a similar storyline through the new show Single Ladies. But this is just one example of what many of us limit ourselves to others. It takes so much bravery and confidence to be transparent.
Sometimes life has a way of making us transparent. It’s the whole theory of things come to light. I have had experiences like this in my life that forced me to share a piece of me. Parts of me I did not want certain people to know for different reasons. I had to come to terms with knowing at some point in my life everything about me will be revealed to someone. I personally would rather willingly share myself with others than have something in my life happen that forces me to. The reason this site I have created exists is because I started realizing this in 2004. Blogging was my outlet to be transparent. When I realized my transparency helped others it became my driving force. However, there are still parts of me that I have not revealed of myself, everything will be in due time. Everything being significant things in my life that I feel would help another person. I understand that there is an art to doing this. There is also a time factor. There has to be an internal reason for this. There are people yes, you will consider before doing this. I deal with that same struggle every day. But that’s why there is an art to being transparent. We must understand that once we find that art that works for us, that there is so much beauty, gifts, and rewards that come with this.
Being transparent does not have to be revealing yourself to the world necessarily but simply not being scared to be who you really feel you truly are; with no hesitation even when people see it. Exuding that kind of confidence is a gift for others that are lacking. It makes you untouchable. Sharing and teaching your experiences is a gift not a curse. It is the ultimate kind of love we give to others that cannot be conquered.
Please support The Trevor Project that helps people be comfortable in who they are in their own skin. Too many people are taking their lives because society makes them feel wrong and alienated for who they are. www.thetrevorproject.org
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