I have lived for 30 years and have been judged and unfortunately judged myself. In those years, I have learned that we just can’t do that! We must not look at a torn page and instantly deem that the words on it are not beautiful; as much as we cannot look at a damaged person and believe they are not beautiful. As I have gotten older, I have had no choice but to be more discerning. I have met so many walks of life and have had so many unique experiences with people I have met. I have traveled to many places where I have met good and bad people. Well, I have met and grown to know people with “existing factors” to which has caused them to seem like a bad person—factors like Bipolar/Manic disorder, Kleptomania, Drug Abuse to an inability to cope with past or even present adversity. Some others might be ill physically, and as a result, the medications have made them a different person. There are a number of things I could list to explain why people could be the way they are. However, this is not an excuse for people that are “seemingly bad people” because there are people that are ugly in the inside for no reason.
The “torn pages” is simply a metaphor for people whom are damaged. These people should not be judged; they should be helped. Too often people don’t realize they may need help because it is difficult to identify. I guess I can speak personally on this because I have someone in my life that is dear to my heart that has hurt me in unspeakable levels—ones you would not believe if I shared it. For this person there is just too much love for me to ever completely walk away, though most people would never understand. After I realized that this person has “existing factors”, I then was able to understand why certain daunting and tumultuous events between us were happening.
Sometimes you have to step back and look out of the situation to really see what is going on. Once you recognize people that are damaged getting help, you can then finally see the beauty in them. To know you stayed by that person’s side with clear understanding is the most meaningful feeling. Of course, it’s not your right to do this with everyone but perhaps next time you see a torn page you might find it worthwhile to help tape it back together.
In inspiration of the movie Bringing Ashley Home– A True Story.
All Content © 2011 Marika Dye
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Yeah it is sad that there are people who are lost in their world of hopelessness, worry, and sadness. Pretty much all of that is rolled into one. When we let it build and build up on us, that is when problems arise.
Not that I'm saying, there are ways to prevent this from occuring b/c some people do not have the capacity of controlling what their minds want to do and make them act on certain things.
If we have the ability to do it we should be strong willed and do something about it! Not depend on drugs or addictions. That to me can be controlled. Just avoid the stuff all together. Seek other things to occupy your time. If you have the money to spend on stupid stuff like that, why dont you save it or treat yourself to something better.
People who have bipolar/kleptomaniac, schizophrenia, a lot of those have to be treated. If people go left untreated it can get out of hand.
If there are people who have problems w/ controlling their actions toward one another its time to get help! Just forget the stubbornness and denial and just get it checked out.
Like my friend tells me, "just dont sit there and deny it, what good is that gonna get ya?" Truth is, no where. Instead of denying or think you're not denying it, just stop it all together and seek help. If you have friends or family close to you, or church family, lean on them for help if you don't know the way yourself. It all starts somewhere.
I'm not speaking from experience but its all common sense. We all have troubles and trials in our lives. There is always direction that can guide us in God's Word.
Read Acts 2:38 and Mark 16:15-16. If anyone has never read or have read the Bible there's a starting point to really get life in order. It all starts somewhere. ~
Marika you are doing a great job w/ your posts! I enjoy reading them!! xo !
Awww thank you girl. You are right these people do need to get treated. I feel bad. I am blessed I don't have these issues.
I have a friend that has a girlfriend that is up and down and he doesn't know what to do. I told him the advice you just gave in this blog.