I have lived for 30 years and have been judged and unfortunately judged myself. In those years, I have learned that we just can’t do that! We must not look at a torn page and instantly deem that the words on it are not beautiful; as much as we cannot look at a damaged person and believe they are not beautiful. As I have gotten older, I have had no choice but to be more discerning. I have met so many walks of life and have had so many unique experiences with people I have met. I have traveled to many places where I have met good and bad people. Well, I have met and grown to know people with “existing factors” to which has caused them to seem like a bad person—factors like Bipolar/Manic disorder, Kleptomania, Drug Abuse to an inability to cope with past or even present adversity. Some others might be ill physically, and as a result, the medications have made them a different person. There are a number of things I could list to explain why people could be the way they are. However, this is not an excuse for people that are “seemingly bad people” because there are people that are ugly in the inside for no reason.
The “torn pages” is simply a metaphor for people whom are damaged. These people should not be judged; they should be helped. Too often people don’t realize they may need help because it is difficult to identify. I guess I can speak personally on this because I have someone in my life that is dear to my heart that has hurt me in unspeakable levels—ones you would not believe if I shared it. For this person there is just too much love for me to ever completely walk away, though most people would never understand. After I realized that this person has “existing factors”, I then was able to understand why certain daunting and tumultuous events between us were happening.
Sometimes you have to step back and look out of the situation to really see what is going on. Once you recognize people that are damaged getting help, you can then finally see the beauty in them. To know you stayed by that person’s side with clear understanding is the most meaningful feeling. Of course, it’s not your right to do this with everyone but perhaps next time you see a torn page you might find it worthwhile to help tape it back together.
In inspiration of the movie Bringing Ashley Home– A True Story.
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