Growing up, I always had friends but I also had those that made fun of me. I can’t imagine not having any friends and being bullied like some cases I have seen. I remember moments in the girl’s locker room where I was made fun of. I was never one of those that blossomed in middle school or early high school like some girls did. And I definitely didn’t go against what I was taught and do some of things that the girls in the cool crowd did either. Therefore, kids found those to be good reasons to ridicule me. To say the least, it was not fun but I was able to overcome it.
Though I was blessed to come out of it okay, it’s the others I think about often that didn’t. In most cases, while being bullied, children feel as if their life is in hell and will give anything just to have even a moment out of it. Realize that though bullying hours could last the duration of school time, it also continues emotionally when the child gets home. Therefore, in a child’s mind, oftentimes the only way out is to leave this world completely. But there is no turning back from that and the kids who cause this outcome don’t care. For some, they actually get pleasure out of this and maybe even a greater pleasure than they had while bullying their peer.
Some people would agree that bullying comes from how there are being parented and their home life. Let’s face it, children growing up in hostile environments is increasing yearly. They could be either witnessing abuse in the home or enduring it, so they learn to project that pain onto someone else. It also becomes normal and viewed positively in a child’s mind. They could also have parents that allow them to run the household; therefore, they then feel privileged to act this way in surroundings outside of the household as well. But then, maybe it’s not the household, it could be the influence from other kids. The only way to not be bullied by kids in the “cool crowd” is to be one. It’s like the mean girls theory. However, with this theory there is always a ring leader. Ring leaders could have these common issues mentioned, but let’s look at some less obvious reasons kids bully other kids.
We seldom think of the psychological reasons that cause also cause this. Do we? Well, we should. Once we start finding out what is really going on in the brain or even the body then we might be able to solve some of the issues. We can’t just chuck this up to kids being kids like some people do. These kids grow up to be adults and sometimes get worse. I was watching the E! Story on bullying and a doctor mentioned some of these children having “pleasure chemicals” that prompts them to do this. These chemicals are released when they hit on or make fun of another child thus creating some sort of satisfaction. This alerted me that some of these kids probably have disorders which I then felt needed to be researched further.
The “pleasure chemicals” he was referring to was actually more so an increase of certain hormone that causes aggression. After weeks of researching this, I found that most articles lean more toward explaining why kids are able to be bullied, not why kids bully other kids medically or psychologically. I think that is important to discuss as well, so when I heard the doctor say “Children that bully have pleasure chemicals.” I had to take the time to read every article there was to find out more. Finally, I found an article that learned toward both but gave me some information as to why kids bully with more of an explanation than it’s simply the child’s environment. I wholeheartedly believe that is not always the case especially when you see other siblings in the house not aggressive. What could be the issue is that there is an increase of cortisol in the child’s brain. That is the closest I have found to the “pleasure chemical. Thanks to Dr. Yvon Delville’s research he goes more in depth about the hormone cortisol @ http://www.utexas.edu/features/archive/2002/bully.html.
In my research, I have come to the conclusion that we don’t think dynamically enough on this issue. We have to consider child bullies as victims too, whether they live in a hostile environment or if they have a mental or medical illness causing this, though children that are bullied happen to be the obvious victim. It is important to find out what is going on with bullies to be able to stop this type of behavior as adults. This type of behavior, if not approached, can escalate to something worse as years progress. That is why I plan to do a second part of this article and research more deeply about this. I’d like to discuss levels of Autism that also can create bullying behavior as well. I hope that this prompts more active (outside the box) thinking on this subject. With that said your viewpoints, professional opinions or stories below are very much welcomed.
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